Blogging engagement is not just simply the act of getting down on one knee begging, “Please baby please, will you be my first follower?” It’s a relationship! A dalliance that must feel authentic from the first romantic click all the way to the hopeful and most times unlikely mammoth known as – the follow.
This follower is unlike any other. She is a beautiful redhead, recently single, not looking to date but ready to fall in love, and fate has put her locker two down from yours, two lockers down! So, step up or lose out.
Like any other hopeless blogger, you rush to her page, click like, follow, marry (if its available) post a meaningful comment and something magical happens, she responds back! But here’s the kicker – she doesn’t follow you… (Sad face, wonk, wonk, wonk)
On a not so side note: Blogging engagement is just one factor, find out how to get more people to read your blog here and here.

Nice job!
Reciprocal relationship
Much like friends with benefits, there should be some, tangible, well – benefits. Nothing out-of-pocket of course, unless you are using hands.
You know the drill. Like for like, comment for comment, tit for tat if you will. In any case, it has to go both ways, much like gender fluidity.
Genuine reciprocation should leave both parties happy and satisfied. If not, that just means you didn’t do it right. In the event that you are a savant of pleasure and creative wordplay …. or me. You should be fine, if not, learn fast. Other people are willing to go down (on the comment page) and leave wonderfully exciting words of merriment. You can’t just phone it in with a “nice post!” and expect anyone to put out.
Blogging engagement means, you need to engage. Melt their heart with your meaningful words and really make them feel good about themselves.
You got to work!

I think you got something in your teeth
Dating
This begins the relentless back and forth, the playful banter, the mellifluous soliloquies and yet, all this time she is in the midst of the greatest decision that has ever been made in blogging engagement history.
She’s thinking “I think I like you, I really do. Wait, you like me too? Oh my gosh I think, I think this might be the beginning of something wonderful. He’s a really good-looking Lion and sometimes he says some clever stuff, but is that enough for me to follow him into the jungle for the rest of my life? Am I ready to join the pride and run with the animals in the wild? Am I a free bird like Lynyrd Skynyrd? Should I say yes, to the dress?”
Um, duh, click it. Like now.
No seriously, go now and click follow.

I call them, my little morties
Guest blog
Things are beginning to get hot and heavy. She already let you get to first and second base, lord knows she even re-blogged a few of your terrible posts, and now, it’s the high stakes round. But don’t get ahead of yourself you clumsy bastard, if you play your cards right tonight she might let you go all-the-way. And you know what that means……the guest blog!

Whoa..oh..ohhhh.oh.oh.ohhh.ohh.oh.ohoh.whoa oh oh.
If you like it…. you better put a ring on it. Fully committed blogging engagement
So now that she’s whipping her hair and grinding on that surfboard like Beyoncé looking for her glass of lemonade, you realize – this just got serious.
Suddenly, it’s not just about you and how cute you think your latest trip was. You need an indelible theme that leaves your audience reeling about how great it was and how much it slays. That’s just the beginning. You start paying attention to things like grammar, prose and read other blogs (like mine) about how to be unreasonably awesome all the time.
You start going out less and posting more, bringing your phone with you to the dance floor, hanging with some bloggers I have never seen before……
Until that fateful day arrives, when you and your lady are standing at the altar of the “follow button” about to make the biggest decision of your lives, staring longingly into each other’s hopeful Gravatars.
“I vow to read your blog in sickness and in health, in poorness and in wealth, (who are we kidding, poorness) when your prose is lacking and when you stop being funny, when you inevitably sell out and try to make money on advertising.”
“Do you take this Nerdy Lion to be your lawfully wedded follow?”
Again, duh. Of course, you do. (Just click to the left of the “browse” button on my home page) Can’t miss it!!

“Hehe, I got it!” -Luigi
These hoes ain’t loyal (When the engagement falls apart.)
It started with a Liebster award nomination to some random blog you’ve never heard of, and now it’s getting out of hand….
Blogging engagement is not a game for the faint of heart.
There’s so many other good-looking eligible bachelors out there, that its hard to keep a girl loyal around these parts. So, my friends, your blog needs to be attractive, smell good and you need to learn how to maintain a relationship. That’s right, reply to comments, go ahead and reciprocate, if you really want to take it all the way, try a blogger appreciation post. (My example) Otherwise you’ll find them whispering sweet nothings to some other no good blogger, leaving you alone with just you and your hand tonight….
Just typing……nothing dirty.
Wow what an absolutely awesome post and l did read it from start to finish , and not just like it for the sake of liking it because it appeared on my dashboard.. It appeared in my email, and l had to log in and comment. Some totally valid points. a genuinely good read.
I find that l read many of the new posts in my email and then when l log in, l then hit like, however if something has caught my attention, then l have to go in and comment.
But a really good read.
I did the same, I usually stick to my emails but this post really grabbed my attention
Wow thanks guys!
That’s pretty funny, but true. My content is not that compelling but I have grown some readers by doing just what you describe. It’s really “mostly” all about relationships – and trust. Good reading
Thanks for reading 🙂
Wow! This was a very creative write. Read it all, entertaining yet has a strong underlying message. Nice!
If you want to know a secret….I mean, I guess its not a big deal or anything, but I came up with this idea while I was commenting on someone else’s page about engagement. I made a joke about blogger engagement being a one night stand and boom! There it was.
That happens to me with poetry! How cool is that?!
its awesome is what it is!
Lol! Good points here. It’s easy to get lazy and just like posts or leave one word comments, but you’re totally right. All relationships take time and dedication.
Really easy to get lazy, my trick is to comment on posts I really like, that way I leave a genuine comment, which most times better than anything else.
I love you Leo, your posts always bring me a smile. I look forward to seeing an email saying you’ve posted. (I don’t wait day in day out for one like a stalker or anything….honest….)I just have a soft spot for fluffy intelligent things… 😉
Aww, that means so much to me. I wish I posted more often. I promise I will try to do twice a week at some point this year. Ill have to really write myself ahead though, but I’m sure I can do it. I have tons of ideas already written down and started, I just have to not be lazy. 😉
I second this! Your posts are a treat! I look forward to them as I do my favorite TV shows. Two a week would be pretty dope!
One day I promise I’ll do more than once a week. I love you guys 🙂
I couldn’t agree more.. nailed it!
Awesome!
nice post! see what I did there? No, really that was awesome
Haha, thanks! Ironically that’s how I know you read the entire thing! Really appreciate it. 🙂
That’s where I was going with that. I love your stuff from beginning to end
Leo what a highly entertaining post you have here! Not only do you have great advice but you gave it through humor and clarity.
Btw, I totally agree about the reciprocal relationship. Every time someone leaves a comment on one of my posts I do my best to visit their blog and find something to leave a genuine response to.
You are really good at that. I always appreciate your comments. I’ll tell you something else, I tend to follow those I really enjoy as well so that it makes it even easier to post comments because they come from that place of genuity.
Thank you! I’m glad that my comments are enjoyable 🙂 I do the same!
Thanks for your awesome comment by the way! Forgot to mention that
Welcome 🙂
This was hilarious! I couldn’t stop reading and actually wondered if the post would end in divorce or a side chick. Needless to say, your advice is great for new and old bloggers alike. I’m looking forward to reading more entertaining posts like this one.
Yeah, I guess cheating is the prequel to divorce haha. I have a few more fun ones like this in the pipeline for sure. I might honestly devote like a month to this sort of thing. 🙂 thanks so much for reading. Youre the best!
I’m happy to come along for the ride! I can’t wait to read more!
I think one has to genuinely enjoy viewing the world through the filter of another’s thoughts. Reading their blogs, pondering their opinions and statements of belief…or else it’s bullshit. If I feel obligated then it’s fake. Generating genuine conversation is what it’s all about. Good post, I enjoy reading your stuff.
Couldn’t agree more. That’s what I normally try to do. A post will grab me, I read the whole thing and then try to leave a nice comment. My first post generated so much conversation I was taken aback lol. But when it’s genuine god it’s awesome. Plus you feel like you really start to get to know other people, albeit online.
Bahahaha! So many times I’ve waited for that follow…
Oh mags 🙂 why didn’t you tell me!! I followed you 😉
Hahaha, I didn’t actually mean you (I thought you already were a follower!) Thanks though…I’m so glad we’re on the same page! 😀
Hehe well you got me now
Omg..xD
🙂
Genius. The Rick and Morty references are always appreciated, but this one is off the chain. And very true about the Liebster Award business, but I must confess I’m guilty of it myself – my excuse is my relative status as ‘new girl in blogtown’ (also redhead, recently single, not looking to date, weirdly enough.) Tips for how to make a blog smell good would be appreciated.
I love it!!! Red heads are awesome people I find. I’ll definetly work on blogging perfume that’s for sure. Got to keep the blogosphere smelling great.
Yeah, I love my Rick and morty references. I probably enjoy it more than everyone who reads it haha. I read them in Mortys voice as well. Thanks for the awesome comment as usual. 🙂
Incredible! I love Rick and Morty, I love Rick and Morty references and I love the way you spin them in this post! Plus the images don’t go astray either! hehe my little morties… Great read, It was like I was constantly chuckling and in some ways feeling the Morty anxiety and mentality throughout (well at least relating to Morty in fashion). If I wasn’t already following you I would’ve definitely clicked that follow button after reading this post! If I could click follow again without it unfollowing you I would! 😀
Aw Geez, thank you and stuff. Oh man, you’re so awesome. Haha, thanks so much for reading. I too chuckle at the Rick and Morty references, even though I write it. It makes me laugh as well. Its great to know that other people enjoy it with me. I wasn’t sure if anyone reads the little captions I put under the pictures, but here you go letting me know I’m not wasting my time!! I love it. You win person of the week, if I had such a thing. Maybe I should, who knows it might happen. 😉
Definitely not wasting your time! The captions are awesome! Loved the whoa oh’s of Beyonce too 😁👍
Oh yes!! Person of the week!!! I will wear that title proudly 😎 you should totally have a person of the week!
Maybe one day if I become big time lol
It will happen my friend!! 😁 the humour is too good not become big 😎
Too good not to become big! Apologies for my terrible grammar! Haha
Don’t worry I’m not an undercover cop lol. I’ll remember you when my name is in lights haha. I promise
Phew! 😅
Woohoo!!! I’ll know a famous person 😎
😎
Man I really love you and your writing lol! 😀
Thanks man, I really appreciate your comments, I’m not sure why it took me so long to check out your page. You poetry is wonderfully introspective and so beautiful.
Wow, thank you! I appreciate that. Words like these are what keeps me writing 🙂
🙂 I also mentioned your blog in a recent post.
No waaayyyy, link me that post please, please, please????
https://thenerdylion.com/2018/01/27/3000-followers-in-6-months-the-nerdy-lion-edition/
I just read it!! Thank you so much! I really appreciate the love 🙂
Haha absolutely love this post!
Thank you so much for your kind words 🙂
Hmm, perhaps it’s time for me to consider adding a “marry” button to my site 😉
Do it! Be a trend setter 😉
Such an entertaining and beneficial post!
Thanks Sarah!!
Ha, this is great! I like how you just “mock” these situations that happens to almost EVERYONE lol. I’m already digging your stuff bro, keep it up!
Thanks man! I really appreciate it. Yeah, there’s humor in everything. Some of my other posts have analogies in them as well haha.
Totally! Sorry if I triple commented your post it kept giving me an error and I kept forgetting what I was typing lol.
No worries. It happens to me all the time
Ha, this is great! I like how you just “Mock” these situations that happens to almost EVERYONE lol. I’m already digging your stuff bro, keep it up!
Lol this is great! I’m already digging your stuff man, keep it up!
This was cute! I like how you compared people following and engaging each other on here to a relationship. It really does take work lol
Thanks! It does take alot of work. Instagram is way crazier though.
Great post ;P But really, great post. I’ve had this open in a tab on my computer since I received it in my email. I knew it’d be good (all your posts are) so I didn’t want to quickly read it. That’s what I do with post I know will be great, tab them and read them later when I can give them the time they deserve 😉
That’s such a sweet thing to say. I typically do the same thing with posts that look interesting. So I really appreciate it. ❤
I was pleasantly surprised to recently receive a rush of comments, a rarity in my sphere, but then I realized all 3or 4 were saying almost the same thing, and the gravatar was unclickable, and so concluded they must be spam. But really weird spam, like encouragement and praise heavily loaded with suggestions to lighten my depths and thereby increase my thought accessibility. All of which I faithfully answered to, before realizing I was addressing a particularly odd bot metric. But it was, as you extrapolate, a bit thrilling for a moment.
Hilariously funny description 😄 I was fully engaged all the way.🤗 Being a newbie, it’s taken awhile to figure out how to play! Thanks for the insight😎
I didn’t know at first either. Facebook is a great way to engage with a lot of people and there are some groups that actually reinforce reciprocation, so that’s one way to get your foot in the door. 🙂 Thanks for reading
Can I just say I wish I had written this? Awesome sauce!
How about we say that we collaborated on it 😉 thanks for reading Ceelah 🙂
You are insightful. Excellent post!
🙂 thank you so much
So that’s how you made me love you too? Isn’t the so? 😉 you Casanova with a mane and glasses.. Huh? 😉
Who’d have thought that this analogy would work? But it’s phenomenal! I think your writing is so effortless!
Thanks! I love my analogies, they make writing so much fun.
OMFRIGGINGG!! I just love this. LMAO all the way.
That’s awesome! I’m glad you liked it :).
Great post!! Sweetheart… 😉
I love checking your post.
Sending positive vibes… 🌸
Thanks dear 🙂
Absoloutly love your blog!!!!!
I really shouldn’t be reading these at work but you definitely are helping me get thru this dreadful morning lol
That makes me so happy to hear That!! My original vision for my blog was to have people chuckling at work when they probably shouldn’t be reading ( but let’s be honest) we all do things we shouldn’t at work lol. 🙂
You mean I’m actually supposed to do work for the full 40 hours every week? I’m pretty sure I get my work done in 30-35 and spend the rest of the time doing things like reading blogs. Oops.
No slacking Tracy! Haha.
I LOVE the way you write. You’re hilarious and it seems so raw (which I enjoy very much). There is humour, which keeps me interested, and there is truth, which helps me with my blog lol.
I also read the two posts linked and I howled reading them.
Great posts !!
Hey Cucabear! I know that’s clearly not your real name, unless it is. In which case – super awesome. In any case, thanks for the really lovely words you left me, comments like yours absolutely make my day. I actually love your page and creeped pretty hard. I like your style, so I followed you 🙂 yay.
Haha really enjoyed reading this.
I’m happy you enjoyed It!
🤣🤣 where have you been all my (blogging) life …. 3.5 months.
Actually I’m lying. Your circular photo (in my favourite colours) has caught my eye on more than one occasion ….
you actually speak some valuable truths!
Still finding my feet… but I’ve found two of them and it’s looking ok so far
I love that picture too 🙂 don’t worry your other legs will drop in very soon.
Ah, I was hoping that would happen 🏃🏻♀️🏃🏻♀️🏃🏻♀️
This post literally made me laugh out loud, earning me a few stares from strangers on my commute home! Well written Leo, you truly have a unique voice – your writing screams your personality and I love that 👌👍
This literally made me laugh out loud, earning me a few stares from strangers on my commute home – you have an incredibly unique voice Leo, your personality shines through your writing and i love that!!
Thank you so much! Don’t worry about those strangers, haha. I’m glad you enjoyed it. I really appreciate your kind words. It made my Valentines day!
Blogging is another way to meet and interact with people! Thank you for sharing this post.
Thanks girl 🙂
“It started with a Liebster award nomination to some random blog you’ve never heard of, and now it’s getting out of hand….” Oh my goodness, I adore your witty sense of humor!! ❤ this was a great post. You're right, interacting with other bloggers is truly like cultivating a relationship!
Thank you so much 🙂 you’re do sweet to say that. <3
Wow some great ideas! I never saw it like that! I just wrote about how to gain more blog followers too, I hope you’ll check it out!
Sure I’ll visit!
You are either:
a) a little insane and very entertaining or
b) a high priest of the secret blogging sacred committee, dedicated to the exclusive knowledge of how to gain followers and avoid repetitiveness.
Either way, all the power to you!
Can I be both? 😉 An insanely entertaining high priest of the secret blogging committee sounds like a great description.
LOL Possibly, with enough determination
I’ll be sure to get back to you in a few months to see if I deserve such a distinction. I really need your stamp of approval on this one.
I liked reading this, despite the obvious humour it contains, it makes a lot of zense
Really nice read. Love that you used Morty too
Rick and Morty is so awesome!
Favorite cartoon hands down
I find that choosing the title, picture, and first few lines can be a large factor on whether people click or not!
Yup, I think most people have a short attention span haha. I know I do. 🤔
This is a really great post! I just recently started blogging and the only thing that has gotten me the few likes and follows i have is engaging with other bloggers. There are so many more tips in this post that I’m going to be using from now on. Thanks so much for this!!
thanks man, yeah alot of putting out is definetly involved, but it’s definetly worth it.
I want to take a delightful moment to say ‘nice post’. I’ll leave it at that.
Interesting metaphor, I should expect no less from the witty lion! I would love to hear more about this, is it at all possible you could write a blog on balancing time blogging and going about daily life? I would love to know your input and how you tackle these things!
Thats actually not a bad idea for a post. I might add that to the other posts I’m working on. I know one of my posts briefly touches on it, “Why I post once a week.” but I think I could go into more detail for sure. 🙂 Thanks.
Thank YOU! I’ll be sure to check out that other post in the meantime!
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